Most Popular Reads
A list of my most popular essays, ranked in order of popularity.
- On the Martial Artist: I asked over 20 martial artists, ranging from Silicon Valley, Wall Street, to Hollywood, and everything in between, about the martial arts. What I learned is that, some get good at martial arts, and some get good at getting good.
- Why I Never Quit Martial Arts: Having trained from age six, my biggest challenge was never stopping.
- The Pink Gi in the Room: A comprehensive long-form discussion from the perspective of women about gender diversity and equality in the microcosm of Brazilian jiu-jitsu, and how that reflects on the rest of the world.
- Misery: The More You Use, the More You Have: Does catharsis really work? Or is the idea you can exhaust misery doomed to begin with?
- On Walking the Path With Enson Inoue: A long-form, philosophical discussion about the modern need for spiritual growth, featuring Enson Inoue.
- On the Enjoyment Paradox: Why doing what you like isn't enough.
- On Exercise and Building Character: Physical exertion was and still is the first form of character building.
- Beyond Hacking: Why Trying Harder Matters: Practice, be technical in your craft and endeavors, and learn the proper tactics and strategies. Then prepare to fight like hell.
- How Jiu-Jitsu Healed My Body Image: "For decades I scrutinized my body, hated my body, but was attached to it against my will. Then I started jiu-jitsu..."
- What Getting Punched in the Face Taught Me: Getting punched in the face is a metaphor for conflict. Though possible reactions are infinite, there are only a handful that are useful.
- On Discipline, Intelligence, and Stoicism: It's Tough to Be Smart, but Smart to Be Tough: Intelligence gets enough credit, what's lacking in credit is discipline — the ability to resist distraction.
- On the Loser's Mindset: A Humorous Approach to Success: When you fight doubt, fight it with faith, not certainty. Certainty gets your ass kicked.
- Fighting: It Cannot Be Explained: Fighting is fighting. Everybody gets it. It shouldn't need explanation.
- On the Meaning of a Belt: The belt doesn't make the person. The person makes the belt. You make the belt.
- The Warrior’s Path: Becoming the Competent Man: In literature, the "competent man" is one who has mastered it all. To Daniele Bolelli, this is the warrior.